Saturday, June 27, 2009

Fave Positions for Women

Women love sex. Period. Some women probably love sex more than men. Yes, I am that's not to say that those women don't go through periods where they just aren't in the mood or are too tired...everybody goes through that. But yes, a little admitted to secret: Women love sex. We spend a great deal of time thinking about our next sexual encounter...where it will take place, when and how. And the object of our sordid little fantasies is almost always our partners. And I say 'almost' because those women that don't have partners may be fantasizing about a different mystery man each time, but 98% of women with partners are going to fantasize about their partners each and every time. These little forays into fantasy can sometimes get a little kinky, but usually involve one of the following 5 positions that we ladies enjoy the most. That isn't to say we don't enjoy being contortionists every once in a while, but over all, these positions offer us the greatest pleasure with as little effort from either us or our partners. If there is one thing to be said about women, we are creative and efficient. So read on and discover some positions that will give maximum pleasure with little effort.
1. Doggy Style...This may be a surprising position because most men think that us girls feel degraded in this position, but that isn't always true. It can be degrading if you want it to be (see standard porn version), but that is when most women will cease to enjoy it and get pissed or hurt. We are going for something a bit more pleasurable for both of you. So a few rules in the doggy style act: no hair pulling unless your partner wants you to...and don't make her feel like an object that is beneath you. This position can be accomplished in a couple of ways. The most popular is to have her kneel on all fours with you behind her. This works best on the bed so there is a soft foundation for both of you. You can also bend her over something that is of the right height...chairs work great for this, but you can also have her stand and lean over onto the bed with you standing behind her. Most men enjoy thrusting while standing and a lot of women love watching their men thrusting while standing...there is something 'powerful' about it, so make sure she can catch a view either from twisting slightly or having access to a mirror. (See post Mirror, Mirror on the Wall) Intensify things by either grasping her hips, reaching around to caress her clitoris or talking dirty to her...she'll love it all! That being said, position 5 is a great position for anal play, provided your partner is up for it. Don't assume that she is. If anal play is not something that you participate in regularly, talk about it and take it slow. Before graduating to anal penetration, spend some time just on anal play. Try stimulating that area with your fingers. Another thing to try? Anal beads. They come in various sizes so you can work her up to being able to take in all of your mighty rod. Also, she might be a bit anxious about anal sex because of the potential for disaster. We spend all of our time trying to be pretty and smell good and not be gross so that we can get you into our beds and anal sex can spell disaster if you aren't careful. If you want to try anal play, don't spring it on her...let her know before you get started so she can prepare. And don't knock her if she says, "Not tonight", she probably has good reason. If you want to know why, simply ask her, but don't be surprised if the answer is is a private matter after all. Be open to trying a little anal stimulation and penetration yourself so that you know what it is like for her. That will make her more willing to be open and try it...not to mention it will make you way hotter because you are being sensitive to her needs and that is a turn on like no other!
2. Lap Dance...This position speaks for itself. Women love being on top. They like it even better with their partner sitting up, be it in a chair on the couch or even sitting up in the bed. It does require a bit of oxygen once you get going, but is easier than having her partner lay down because we have something to brace ourselves on. This position is also appealing because we can control the depth and it gives us a sense of being in control. Guys, while it may be tempting for you to sit back and enjoy the ride, you can magnify her pleasure by teasing her nipples with your tongue or massaging her clitoris with your fingers. This will only heighten her pleasure.
3. The Rinse Cycle...I'm sure you can figure this one out. This basically involves your partner seated on a surface level with your waist with you standing in front of her. This position enables you to thrust deeply and offers a great view for both of you. And by placing her vagina directly against your groin, it increases your ability to thrust even deeper, thereby increasing her chance at attaining a G-Spot orgasm. Increase the intensity by spreading her legs even further apart and having her wrap them around you. A warning though-this position can make some men orgasm relatively quickly, so don't hesitate to slow things down some...women love slow deep thrusting. Some places to try this position? The kitchen counter, the washing machine (try it with the washer on!) or even the hood of your car, provided the temp is just right. Be creative and get naughty!
4. Simple Spooning...This is a great position for several reasons. Women love feeling you pressed up against her from behind. It is a comfortable and reassuring feeling...not to mention this position allows either you (preferably) or her to stimulate her clitoris in addition to the great feeling of thrusting from behind. Lay down behind her and pull her top leg over your hip. With her thighs spread apart like this, she will feel extra naughty and will probably arch her back allowing better access for you and an extra dose of naughtiness for her. Take it up a notch by reaching around and caressing her clitoris or encouraging her to do so (again, an extra dose of naughty) and whispering dirty nothings in her ear...a great position for dirty talk because it allows you to whisper which makes it even sexier!
5. The Standard...Also known as the missionary position. Now I know that a lot of you may be thinking 'Boring!' but hold up and read on. The missionary position is a fave for good reason. It has myriad pleasurable opportunities without the acrobatic requirements of a member of Cirque du Soleil. It also allows us to be "safely" dominated without the requirements of restraints...not that you can't involve restraints. There is nothing hotter that having our partner push us down on the bed, spread our legs and hold our wrists above our heads so he can thrust his rod into our shaft! Women love dominance in the bedroom, and this position allows for different levels of dominance making it suitable for all types of women Step it up a notch and add a little dirty talk. Women love that!
Now that you have 5 new positions to work with (or maybe new views on those 5 positions), be creative and get naughty!!
Kisses xxx