Fave Positions for Women

Women love sex. Period. Some women probably love sex more than men. Yes, I am serious...now that's not to say that those women don't go through periods where they just aren't in the mood or are too tired...everybody goes through that. But yes, a little admitted to secret: Women love sex. We spend a great deal of time thinking about our next sexual encounter...where it will take place, when and how. And the object of our sordid little fantasies is almost always our partners. And I say 'almost' because those women that don't have partners may be fantasizing about a different mystery man each time, but 98% of women with partners are going to fantasize about their partners each and every time. These little forays into fantasy can sometimes get a little kinky, but usually involve one of the following 5 positions that we ladies enjoy the most. That isn't to say we don't enjoy being contortionists every once in a while, but over all, these positions offer us the greatest pleasure with as little effort from either us or our partners. If there is one thing to be said about women, we are creative and efficient. So read on and discover some positions that will give maximum pleasure with little effort.
1. Doggy Style...This may be a surprising position because most men think that us girls feel degraded in this position, but that isn't always true. It can be degrading if you want it to be (see standard porn version), but that is when most women will cease to enjoy it and get pissed or hurt. We are going for something a bit more pleasurable for both of you. So a few rules in the doggy style act: no hair pulling unless your partner wants you to...and don't make her feel like an object that is beneath you. This position can be accomplished in a couple of ways. The most popular is to have her kneel on all fours with you behind her. This works best on the bed so there is a soft foundation for both of you. You can also bend her over something that is of the right height...chairs work great for this, but you can also have her stand and lean over onto the bed with you standing behind her. Most men enjoy thrusting while standing and a lot of women love watching their men thrusting while standing...there is something 'powerful' about it, so make sure she can catch a view either from twisting slightly or having access to a mirror. (See post Mirror, Mirror on the Wall) Intensify things by either grasping her hips, reaching around to caress her clitoris or talking dirty to her...she'll love it all! That being said, position 5 is a great position for anal play, provided your partner is up for it. Don't assume that she is. If anal play is not something that you participate in regularly, talk about it and take it slow. Before graduating to anal penetration, spend some time just on anal play. Try stimulating that area with your fingers. Another thing to try? Anal beads. They come in various sizes so you can work her up to being able to take in all of your mighty rod. Also, she might be a bit anxious about anal sex because of the potential for disaster. We spend all of our time trying to be pretty and smell good and not be gross so that we can get you into our beds and anal sex can spell disaster if you aren't careful. If you want to try anal play, don't spring it on her...let her know before you get started so she can prepare. And don't knock her if she says, "Not tonight", she probably has good reason. If you want to know why, simply ask her, but don't be surprised if the answer is vague...it is a private matter after all. Be open to trying a little anal stimulation and penetration yourself so that you know what it is like for her. That will make her more willing to be open and try it...not to mention it will make you way hotter because you are being sensitive to her needs and that is a turn on like no other!
2. Lap Dance...This position speaks for itself. Women love being on top. They like it even better with their partner sitting up, be it in a chair on the couch or even sitting up in the bed. It does require a bit of oxygen once you get going, but is easier than having her partner lay down because we have something to brace ourselves on. This position is also appealing because we can control the depth and it gives us a sense of being in control. Guys, while it may be tempting for you to sit back and enjoy the ride, you can magnify her pleasure by teasing her nipples with your tongue or massaging her clitoris with your fingers. This will only heighten her pleasure.
3. The Rinse Cycle...I'm sure you can figure this one out. This basically involves your partner seated on a surface level with your waist with you standing in front of her. This position enables you to thrust deeply and offers a great view for both of you. And by placing her vagina directly against your groin, it increases your ability to thrust even deeper, thereby increasing her chance at attaining a G-Spot orgasm. Increase the intensity by spreading her legs even further apart and having her wrap them around you. A warning though-this position can make some men orgasm relatively quickly, so don't hesitate to slow things down some...women love slow deep thrusting. Some places to try this position? The kitchen counter, the washing machine (try it with the washer on!) or even the hood of your car, provided the temp is just right. Be creative and get naughty!
4. Simple Spooning...This is a great position for several reasons. Women love feeling you pressed up against her from behind. It is a comfortable and reassuring feeling...not to mention this position allows either you (preferably) or her to stimulate her clitoris in addition to the great feeling of thrusting from behind. Lay down behind her and pull her top leg over your hip. With her thighs spread apart like this, she will feel extra naughty and will probably arch her back allowing better access for you and an extra dose of naughtiness for her. Take it up a notch by reaching around and caressing her clitoris or encouraging her to do so (again, an extra dose of naughty) and whispering dirty nothings in her ear...a great position for dirty talk because it allows you to whisper which makes it even sexier!
5. The Standard...Also known as the missionary position. Now I know that a lot of you may be thinking 'Boring!' but hold up and read on. The missionary position is a fave for good reason. It has myriad pleasurable opportunities without the acrobatic requirements of a member of Cirque du Soleil. It also allows us to be "safely" dominated without the requirements of restraints...not that you can't involve restraints. There is nothing hotter that having our partner push us down on the bed, spread our legs and hold our wrists above our heads so he can thrust his rod into our shaft! Women love dominance in the bedroom, and this position allows for different levels of dominance making it suitable for all types of women Step it up a notch and add a little dirty talk. Women love that!
Now that you have 5 new positions to work with (or maybe new views on those 5 positions), be creative and get naughty!!
Kisses xxx

Role Playing 101

Role-playing...it tends to conjure up different images for all of us, but one thing is for sure...it conjures up a very pleasing image one way or another. If you and your partner have tried it, then you know that the result is definitely worth the effort. Not only is it fun, it really isn't as embarrassing as some of you are thinking. If you have never tried it before, you may have some concerns, such as will he/she think I'm a freak? Or, maybe you will worry about whether or not you will actually be able to go through with it. Well, let me tell you...try it. Just once and you will be convinced. Role-playing is not something to be done everyday. It is one of those thing that you pull out of your hat every now and then to spice things up. I will tell you this right now...go into it with an open mind, confidence, and anticipation of enjoying yourself. These are your three keys to success. You can try finding out what your partner would enjoy ahead of time. Everyone has thought about it at least once. In our sex-driven society, who can't? It may be easier to broach the subject either during or after sex, since you are both already in that frame of mind and quite possible feeling so on top of the world that you would be willing to share anything. Some scenarios to try? Teacher/student, master/slave, cop/robber, doctor/nurse/patient, stranger caught unawares...these are some of the more "standard" ones. There are a world of others if you will only open up your imagination. There are a ton of naughty costumes out there for both guys and girls including military, fairy, fairy tale, angels, devils, racing digs, super heros, story book (Snow White, Little Bo Peep, etc.)...the possibilities are endless. Once you have chosen your scenario and the "big day," make sure you have plenty of uninterrupted time together. Trust me, no matter how shy your partner or you, you or he/she will lose that feeling within about 5 minutes. It is almost impossible to feel that way when your partner is looking at you like they can't wait to devour you. Want to get ballsy? Bring a camera into the picture...be it a still or video, but just make sure you trust who you are doing that with so you don't wind up on "Naughty Amateurs II, Role Playing 101" on the net. Then, just let things go where they may. It is a lot of fun, and a chance for you to focus on nothing but the two of you and your respective pleasures! Have fun and get creative. Check out my poll and let me know your favorite "basic" role-playing fantasy...it's anonymous, I promise!



Kisses xxx

Guys (and you ladies as well), Listen Up!

Okay, for all you guys out there, I am going to give you some much needed help when it comes to dealing with your women. To women, sex is not just sex. Especially if you are in either a long term relationship or married. Sex is a lot more than sex. She has sex with her body and her mind. To her, sex is a chance to be extremely close to the one that she loves the most. It gives her a chance to connect to you in a way that is impossible through everyday occurrences. It heightens her level of respect for you, her feelings for you emotionally and physically and helps remind her that even though you both have busy schedules, she is important to you. It helps her validate herself, as a woman, and her relationship with you. To her, sex is emotional. When she has sex with you, she is giving herself, mind-body-soul, to you. She is letting her guard down and making herself vulnerable. She is offering herself to you in the most intimate way possible. This is a part of her that is for you and you only. No one else gets to see her this way. If you reject this part of her, then your relationship will not only go downhill, but will roll downhill at an alarming rate. Let's face it. Like most couples, the two of you probably have sex in a variety of ways, there is lazy sex, crazy-good sex that is just lots of fun, quickies, and sometimes even just "animal" sex where it is nothing but sex. She is quite able to have "just sex," because she sees sex as a bigger picture. She needs you to recognize that for her, sex isn't just sex. She is not asking for sex to become all emotional for you. We, as women, realize that that just isn't going to happen with most of you guys out there. Just like for most of us women out there, sex will never be just sex. What is important to both of you is recognition and acceptance. You both need to recognize and accept what sex is to each other. In doing this, you are able to give each other what you both need. Which, in the long run, can make sex even better. If you don't understand and are just completely lost, ask your partner. If they try and explain it and you are still completely lost, be patient and ask for more detail. Give them a chance to explain and give yourself a chance to understand. Understanding doesn't mean you have to change how you view sex, it just means that you will be able to give your partner what they need the most, which will make you all the more incredible in their eyes and quite possibly make you the person he/she loves and wants to be around the most. And if you can't handle that, then you are in the wrong place with the wrong person. Just remember to open your mind and try. At the very least, you will get an "A" for effort and she will definitely appreciate it even if you are still lost, because you have just made her feel important enough to put effort into. That will score you major brownie points!

Kisses xxx

Naughty or Nice?

Being naughty...what could be more fun?! Let's face it, people...we all like sex. Hell, we love it. You can't deny, at least to yourself, that there is no better feeling in the world than when you are at the peak of orgasm. Physically, it feels great, right? So why are we, as a society in general, so inclined to act like sex is something dirty that should only be experienced in the dark? And talking about it? Totally taboo. Once upon a time, sex was revered as divine. It was worshiped. Let's look at the Kama Sutra. A thousands of years old book totally devoted to sex. While most people see it as a "positions" book with lots of naughty drawings, and would never admit to being fascinated by it, there is a lot more to it than that. All of those spiritual sex guides like Tantra, Tao, and the Kama Sutra, were about pleasure...giving, receiving, and most of all, enjoying it. And there is a lot to be said for what they teach. People who practice spiritual sex have more intense pleasure and tend to enjoy it more. Male followers of Tantric sex have can generally experience multiple orgasms. Not just the stuff of fairy tales. Multiple orgasms for men are completely within reach. As are a lot of other wondrous things. But for a lot of people, women in particular, sex is a head game. If you can learn to overcome the reservations about sex that society has thrust upon us, there is a veritable world of incredible pleasure that awaits you. Of course, you have to know what pleases you before you can enjoy someone else pleasuring you. Because if you don't know what pleases you, then how can you let your partner know what pleases you? You also have to learn how to openly communicate about sex without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. There is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed about when it comes to sex. If you will remember the following pointers, it may help you let go of some of your reservations:
1. You aren't the only one in the room that wants to receive pleasure. Your partner is in the same boat you are in. And all across America and the world even, there are millions of people doing the same thing you are doing and maybe even at the same time!
2. Sex is completely natural. The whole point of sex isn't just breeding offspring. Having an orgasm releases endorphins that help reduce stress and help you sleep. It's like a natural sleeping pill...with super awesome side effects!
3. Sex burns calories...what better exercise is there? Approximately 300 calories are burned during an hour of sex. And the out come? Awesome endorphin release!! :) I have actually come across a "guide" that tells how many calories are burned for different things during sex, such as positions, almost getting caught, trying to hold back, etc...I mean you could have an amazing workout routine and tailor it to how many calories you want to burn. If people could get over their reservations about sex, our nation might actually fall off of the list of "fattest" countries!
I could go on, but for now I won't. That is a start. That "guide" I was talking about will hopefully make it into the book, but it's a bit much to post. The next few post will be devoted to pleasure. Pleasuring yourself, pleasuring your partner, learning how to enjoy pleasure and everything else pleasure related! It makes me feel naughty just thinking about it!! Learn to love being naughty, there is great freedom in it!

Kisses xxx

The Great Orgasm Debate

A long time ago, during darker days, it was debated whether or not women could even orgasm, let alone do it more than once. It was once believed that when a woman spoke, all she was capable of speaking was lies and that the devil or demons caused this. We have come a long way in the ways of female pleasure and it finally was recognized that women were able to receive pleasure as much as men. But where the female orgasm stems from is still debated today. There is a vast majority of sexperts, doctors and the like that swear that all female orgasms stem from clitoral stimulation. But there are women that swear up and down that they have experienced non-clitoral orgasms. There are vaginal orgasms, G-Spot orgasms and goodness knows what else. It is now known that women, not men, have an organ whose only function is to give pleasure. The clitoris has one function and that is it. Men don't have that...aren't we lucky?! So it makes sense that everyone believes that our only way of getting pleasure stems from this organ. But, according to some women, there are other avenues to pleasure out there. Vaginal and g-spot orgasms are much deeper and more intense than clitoral orgasms. I have added a poll to my blog and would love to hear your responses. Don't worry, they stay anonymous! Let me hear from all of you naughty divas out there and maybe we can settle the Great Debate once and for all! More on the great orgasm tomorrow!

Kisses xxx

The Nectar of the Gods

Okay, guys...here it is...a guide to giving her the best cunnilingus she has ever had. And my props to those guys out there that are man enough to recognize that there is nothing wrong with a little advice. Too many guys think that they are already an expert in pleasing their partners. Out of all the sexual self-help types of books out there, over 90% are purchased by women. Statistically speaking, women are the ones who are always wanting to improve, even if they are already excelling at something. Guys generally think that there is no need for improvement if they are already doing it right. Guys, there is always room to add some skills to your repertoire.
Oral sex is something that both sexes report wanting more of. Why the fascination? There is something extremely naughty about the thought of someone licking your genitals. And it is okay to just lie back and enjoy without feeling like you have to return the favor. Just remember to return the favor at some point. If one of you doesn't feel like it, it's okay. Take turns, just don't "keep score."
The most important thing you can remember, guys, is that it takes her longer to reach orgasm than it does for you. The best thing you can do for her is to not rush her. And don't make her feel like you aren't getting any pleasure from it. That will add pressure and make her less likely to come. Let her know you are enjoying yourself. Make a lot of sensual sounds and tell her how much you like it. Start off slow and be sure you ask her how she likes it...fast, slow, soft, hard, etc. Your position is very important here. If she likes positions of power and isn't easily embarrassed, lay down on your back and have her straddle your face on her knees. It gives her the sense of being in power, kind of like a master/slave fantasy. If she is easily intimidated, let her lay on her back with you between her legs. It will give her more confidence and less pressure which equals faster coming. As far as positioning your tongue goes, use the flat of your tongue as opposed to the tip. Use plenty of saliva and if need be, keep a glass of water handy to help you out. You can also find flavored lubes out there at most adult stores in a variety of flavors. Remember, guys, timing is important. Make sure she knows you are enjoying yourself and don't rush her. Keep your strokes steady and ask her how fast she likes it. It's always best to be too gentle than too rough, if she wants it harder, she'll let you know. If she pulls away slightly, ease up on the pressure. If she arches up trying to get closer, use more pressure. Try to be attuned to her body language. If you can't figure it out, ask her. Her body will tense when she nears orgasm. At that point, maintain the rhythm. As she's climaxing, slow down easily and gently. She may push you away afterwards, but that is just because most women are extremely and unbearably sensitive right after an orgasm. Just pay attention to her signals and ask her to let you know what feels good. Let her have your undivided attention with no limit on time and you will both have a rocking good time!

Kisses xxx

Blow Him Away...Literally!

Men love oral sex. Period. I mean what guy wouldn't? All of that warm and wet action on something so packed full of sensitive nerve endings that silk boxers make him hard...what is not to love?! Well, ladies, get ready...I'm going to give you some tips to take him over the top. If you want to give him the best fellatio he's ever had, read on...(I've also posted one on how he can give you fabulous cunnilingus to you...guys, make sure you read up!
Oral sex is something that both sexes report wanting more of. Why the fascination? There is something extremely naughty about the thought of someone licking your genitals. And it is okay to just lie back and enjoy without feeling like you have to return the favor. Just remember to return the favor at some point. If one of you doesn't feel like it, it's okay. Take turns, just don't "keep score."
The first thing you need to do is learn to love it. If you love it, you will be good at it. Most women are hesitant because of the smell, the thought of having to swallow or the gag reflex. All three can be easily fixed and you can still enjoy it. Make him feel like you are loving it by making a lot of sexy, throaty sounds and giving him the classic "bedroom eyes" look. Men are visual creatures, play up to that and he'll be rock hard in no time! Men, while they may joke about it, love foreplay. You shouldn't have your mouth anywhere near him unless he is rock hard. Tease him mercilessly. Give him a seductive massage, trail your hands all over him, and use whatever skills you've got to get him there. Tease, tease, tease! Make sure you add variety. Don't get me wrong, he isn't going to turn down an opportunity for oral sex even if it is the same every time, but he will love it if you spice it up. Start out by trying different positions in the bedroom. When you get a little more comfortable, surprise him in different locations of the house. When he's sitting on the couch watching the game or when he's at his desk on the computer. Trust me, he'll be interested. When you've accomplished that, move onto something that will make his jaw drop. Try it while he's driving, but not in heavy traffic in a major city! Also, keep eye contact with him if you aren't too embarrassed. He'll love it! We generally tend to concentrate on his penis. But don't forget, he has other sensitive parts as well. The perineum, or the area of skin between the testicles and the anus, is packed with nerve endings. Also, a lot of men love to have their testicles massaged or licked as well. Use both of your hands. One can be used to play and stimulate different areas, but the other can be used as an anchor. Hold the base of his penis and you will be the one controlling how deep he goes. This comes in handy especially if you have sensitive gag reflexes. And if his hands travel to the back of your head and start pushing too much, tell him "Hands off or it stops." Deep-throating is more of a head game than anything. Remember, most of his nerve endings are in the head, not the shaft, so deep-throating really does nothing spectacular. If you can deep-throat, fantastic! But you don't have to be able to in order to give him good oral sex. Make sure he can see what is going on. Let him see your tongue licking up and down. Treat it like a popsicle and run your tongue all over in different directions and make sure you don't neglect the head. Run your tongue all over and around the head and every few seconds, take the head into your mouth and suck slightly. The more tongue movement while it's in your mouth, the better. Keep your teeth covered and try not to scrape them against his penis. Decide whether you are going to spit or swallow before hand. And if you don't want to do either one, that's okay too. Just plan it out before you get started. Remember that sex is messy. It's a turn-off for him to see you run from the room like his semen is poison. If you are going to spit it out, have a towel handy and do it discreetly. If you keep his penis aimed at the back of your throat and swallow quickly, it's much easier than trying to take it all in and then swallow. If he tastes bad, it's probably something in his diet. Have him start eating more fruit and drinking water and fruit juices and less beer and sodas. If he balks, tell him why and he may be more inclined to try it. One last thing: remember that communication is the key. Have fun, ladies, and have your guys tune in later for their guide to knocking your socks off!

Kisses xxx

The Pleasure Factor

Okay, no more school, I promise!! But I had to give the basics. You would be surprised at how little we know about the workings of the opposite sex's sexual organs...I don't care what your best friend says...they know less than they are willing to admit! Us girls need special attention focused on the clitoris. That is where over 90% of our orgasms stem from. Also, while guys tend to like variety in the way of speed and pressure, guys need to provide steady pressure and a steady speed/stroke to their girls' sensitive parts when attempting to get their partner to go over the top. Guys, whether it's oral sex, or a fantastic hand job, you need to be prepared to hang in and be patient. It takes women approximately 15-20 minutes to orgasm. Girls, our guys are a lot easier to please. Make sure you add variety to your licks or strokes and vary the speed and rhythm . Start off slow, then speed up. When it looks like he is getting ready to come, slow it back down. Bring him right to the edge then take him back down. Guys, don't do that to your girls...when we've worked so hard to get there, let us go over the edge! It's too hard for your partner to get back there, trust me. But she can easily get there again, after she has already crested the pleasure peak. Focus on giving each other pleasure. Ask your partner what they like...after all, just because it makes you come, doesn't mean it is going to make them do it too! And don't hesitate to tell your partner what turns you on. It opens up the communication and deepens the intimacy. Your partner wants feedback from you. Trust me and don't be embarrassed, it will turn them on more than anything and it will give them something to fantasize about as well! Tomorrow: More on orgasms with a little oral!

Kisses xxx

A Crash Course in Anatomy

Thinking about all the positions I've been talking about the last few days, I realized that not only have I skipped some basics, I've skipped some key information that could be of tremendous value. When it comes to pleasuring your mate, you've really got to know what you are handling and really understand it if you are going to be successful in giving mind-blowing pleasure. Guys spend most of their lives looking at their sexual parts. And not only looking at them, but handling them and playing with them. Guys know what gives them the most pleasure...but I bet their partners feel a bit lost when it comes to knowing, without doubt, what pleases their man. And vice versa. While women don't spend most of their lives looking at their parts, we are more familiar with them than our partners are. Here is a crash course.
The penis is basically split into four parts. The head or glans (which is the mushroom shaped part at the top), the urethra (the tiny slit at the top), the shaft, and the frenulum. He may or may not have a foreskin. The head of the penis contains numerous nerve endings, which makes it extremely sensitive. And if you think that part is sensitive, try playing with the frenulum. What is the frenulum, you ask? (Yeah, that was a new one to me too!) The frenulum is located at the underside of the penis where the head meets the shaft. There is a slight puckering of skin there and it is jam-packed with nerve endings making it the most sensitive part of his penis. Try giving this part a little extra attention, especially during oral sex and watch him squirm!
As for our ladies, our parts are quite out of view, and while we are familiar with them, most of our men are not. The female sex organs are much more complex, but can basically be divided into four parts as well. The mons pubis is the fleshy mound covered with pubic hair. This acts as a cushion during sex. Then there are the labia majora and labia minora, or the outer lips and inner lips respectively. Then you have the clitoris, which is protected by the labia minora. This is the key area to a woman's pleasure. Make sure and give this spot extra attention and watch her melt!
Knowing these parts is important if you are ever going to enjoy your sex life. Starting tomorrow: Orgasms...stay tuned!!

Kisses xxx

Positions: Time for a Close-Up

Face to face positions are a perfect way to get a little closer. They are very intimate positions and are relatively easy to move into from other positions. Positions with you sitting on his lap, or even lying in bed face-to-face are popular positions with all types of couples. They are extremely versatile and the eye contact is fabulous, which she'll enjoy a lot. They also free up his hands so that he can stimulate her with his hands or with his penis, guided by his hands. For him, it provides great visual stimulation, which he loves! Try rocking as you thrust, using your legs for leverage. As far as comfort level goes, this requires minimal effort on both parts so it takes the pressure off. There are a variety of face-to-face positions, so get creative and try them all!

Kisses xxx

Positions: The Back Door to Pleasure

Back to the positions we were discussing...today: Rear Entry. This position does several things. It allows for deep penetration and brings out our natural animal instinct. It's a bit primitive and some women feel that it's degrading. Couple who really enjoy sex and enjoy experimenting, will really get into this position, while couples who just "have sex" and feel that the missionary position is racy will tend to stay away from it. If your man has a problem with premature ejaculation, this may not be the position for you unless you are both aiming for a quickie. Women who love uninhibited sex love this position. Because you can't see his face, he could be anyone. This is a great position for stimulation of your g-spot (which is located on the front wall of your vagina, in case you don't know) because he's hitting just the right spot. His hands are also free for stimulating your nipples and clitoris for extra pleasure. For him, it's an excellent visual stimulation. He can see himself clearly pumping in and out which he loves! It also allows him to penetrate as deep as he wants. Try a couple of different ways of doing this...lie face down on the bed with him on top and put a pillow under your hips. This is great for indirect clitoral stimulation. Or go all out and let him have his way...get on all fours. You'll both enjoy it a lot!

Kisses xxx

Slight Diversion

Okay...I'm going to divert from positions today. I had a friend who had a mortifying experience the other day and I felt the need to give my view on the subject. Sex and her menstrual cycle. I want to know how you guys and girls feel about it. Most people feel that it's gross and that it is worth waiting until she is done. But for those of you trusting enough, brave enough and not at all modest, sex can be rather interesting during that particular time of the month. First of all, she is likely a bit more on the horny side than usual because her hormones are running wildly unchecked. Also, there is a natural lubrication which makes intercourse easier for some. Just be sure you have plenty of towels handy because it is a rather messy affair, but like everything else, it's nothing that a shower or a load of laundry won't cure. And for those of you not so brave...you can still fool around and both of you will enjoy it because you have to get creative. So don't let the embarrassment stop you...by now, you both should be old enough to realize it's completely natural and be able to enjoy yourselves in spite of everything. When life hands you lemons, make some hard (in more ways than one!) lemonade!!

Kisses xxx

Today's Tip 7/19/08

It's all in her head...literally. Guys, us girls use our heads a lot. We think with them, we dream with them, we analyze with them, we even have sex with them. If your girl isn't in the right frame of mind, she isn't going to enjoy herself no matter how good you are. If she has ten million things on her mind, she'll be miles away...even if you can't tell. Make sure she feels completely focused on what you are doing. Some things to try? A sensual massage, candles or maybe some music. The key is to take your time and explore a bit. It's not a race to the finish line...unless you both are aiming for a quickie. That's a whole different bowl of cherries for another time. Stay tuned!

Tip of the Day

Today is my birthday. Another year older...yea! I think. Well, today's tip has to do with just that...getting older. Sex doesn't have to happen less the older we get. Our sex drives don't go away when we turn a certain age. We are sexual beings. It is completely natural to want what feels good at any age. Just remember that it is quality that counts. Whether you're doing it 3 times a day or 3 times a month, as long as you make it count, you don't have to keep count. Notches on the bed post are only in the movies!