Blow Him Away...Literally!

Men love oral sex. Period. I mean what guy wouldn't? All of that warm and wet action on something so packed full of sensitive nerve endings that silk boxers make him hard...what is not to love?! Well, ladies, get ready...I'm going to give you some tips to take him over the top. If you want to give him the best fellatio he's ever had, read on...(I've also posted one on how he can give you fabulous cunnilingus to you...guys, make sure you read up!
Oral sex is something that both sexes report wanting more of. Why the fascination? There is something extremely naughty about the thought of someone licking your genitals. And it is okay to just lie back and enjoy without feeling like you have to return the favor. Just remember to return the favor at some point. If one of you doesn't feel like it, it's okay. Take turns, just don't "keep score."
The first thing you need to do is learn to love it. If you love it, you will be good at it. Most women are hesitant because of the smell, the thought of having to swallow or the gag reflex. All three can be easily fixed and you can still enjoy it. Make him feel like you are loving it by making a lot of sexy, throaty sounds and giving him the classic "bedroom eyes" look. Men are visual creatures, play up to that and he'll be rock hard in no time! Men, while they may joke about it, love foreplay. You shouldn't have your mouth anywhere near him unless he is rock hard. Tease him mercilessly. Give him a seductive massage, trail your hands all over him, and use whatever skills you've got to get him there. Tease, tease, tease! Make sure you add variety. Don't get me wrong, he isn't going to turn down an opportunity for oral sex even if it is the same every time, but he will love it if you spice it up. Start out by trying different positions in the bedroom. When you get a little more comfortable, surprise him in different locations of the house. When he's sitting on the couch watching the game or when he's at his desk on the computer. Trust me, he'll be interested. When you've accomplished that, move onto something that will make his jaw drop. Try it while he's driving, but not in heavy traffic in a major city! Also, keep eye contact with him if you aren't too embarrassed. He'll love it! We generally tend to concentrate on his penis. But don't forget, he has other sensitive parts as well. The perineum, or the area of skin between the testicles and the anus, is packed with nerve endings. Also, a lot of men love to have their testicles massaged or licked as well. Use both of your hands. One can be used to play and stimulate different areas, but the other can be used as an anchor. Hold the base of his penis and you will be the one controlling how deep he goes. This comes in handy especially if you have sensitive gag reflexes. And if his hands travel to the back of your head and start pushing too much, tell him "Hands off or it stops." Deep-throating is more of a head game than anything. Remember, most of his nerve endings are in the head, not the shaft, so deep-throating really does nothing spectacular. If you can deep-throat, fantastic! But you don't have to be able to in order to give him good oral sex. Make sure he can see what is going on. Let him see your tongue licking up and down. Treat it like a popsicle and run your tongue all over in different directions and make sure you don't neglect the head. Run your tongue all over and around the head and every few seconds, take the head into your mouth and suck slightly. The more tongue movement while it's in your mouth, the better. Keep your teeth covered and try not to scrape them against his penis. Decide whether you are going to spit or swallow before hand. And if you don't want to do either one, that's okay too. Just plan it out before you get started. Remember that sex is messy. It's a turn-off for him to see you run from the room like his semen is poison. If you are going to spit it out, have a towel handy and do it discreetly. If you keep his penis aimed at the back of your throat and swallow quickly, it's much easier than trying to take it all in and then swallow. If he tastes bad, it's probably something in his diet. Have him start eating more fruit and drinking water and fruit juices and less beer and sodas. If he balks, tell him why and he may be more inclined to try it. One last thing: remember that communication is the key. Have fun, ladies, and have your guys tune in later for their guide to knocking your socks off!

Kisses xxx

The Pleasure Factor

Okay, no more school, I promise!! But I had to give the basics. You would be surprised at how little we know about the workings of the opposite sex's sexual organs...I don't care what your best friend says...they know less than they are willing to admit! Us girls need special attention focused on the clitoris. That is where over 90% of our orgasms stem from. Also, while guys tend to like variety in the way of speed and pressure, guys need to provide steady pressure and a steady speed/stroke to their girls' sensitive parts when attempting to get their partner to go over the top. Guys, whether it's oral sex, or a fantastic hand job, you need to be prepared to hang in and be patient. It takes women approximately 15-20 minutes to orgasm. Girls, our guys are a lot easier to please. Make sure you add variety to your licks or strokes and vary the speed and rhythm . Start off slow, then speed up. When it looks like he is getting ready to come, slow it back down. Bring him right to the edge then take him back down. Guys, don't do that to your girls...when we've worked so hard to get there, let us go over the edge! It's too hard for your partner to get back there, trust me. But she can easily get there again, after she has already crested the pleasure peak. Focus on giving each other pleasure. Ask your partner what they like...after all, just because it makes you come, doesn't mean it is going to make them do it too! And don't hesitate to tell your partner what turns you on. It opens up the communication and deepens the intimacy. Your partner wants feedback from you. Trust me and don't be embarrassed, it will turn them on more than anything and it will give them something to fantasize about as well! Tomorrow: More on orgasms with a little oral!

Kisses xxx

Positions: Time for a Close-Up

Face to face positions are a perfect way to get a little closer. They are very intimate positions and are relatively easy to move into from other positions. Positions with you sitting on his lap, or even lying in bed face-to-face are popular positions with all types of couples. They are extremely versatile and the eye contact is fabulous, which she'll enjoy a lot. They also free up his hands so that he can stimulate her with his hands or with his penis, guided by his hands. For him, it provides great visual stimulation, which he loves! Try rocking as you thrust, using your legs for leverage. As far as comfort level goes, this requires minimal effort on both parts so it takes the pressure off. There are a variety of face-to-face positions, so get creative and try them all!

Kisses xxx

Positions: The Back Door to Pleasure

Back to the positions we were discussing...today: Rear Entry. This position does several things. It allows for deep penetration and brings out our natural animal instinct. It's a bit primitive and some women feel that it's degrading. Couple who really enjoy sex and enjoy experimenting, will really get into this position, while couples who just "have sex" and feel that the missionary position is racy will tend to stay away from it. If your man has a problem with premature ejaculation, this may not be the position for you unless you are both aiming for a quickie. Women who love uninhibited sex love this position. Because you can't see his face, he could be anyone. This is a great position for stimulation of your g-spot (which is located on the front wall of your vagina, in case you don't know) because he's hitting just the right spot. His hands are also free for stimulating your nipples and clitoris for extra pleasure. For him, it's an excellent visual stimulation. He can see himself clearly pumping in and out which he loves! It also allows him to penetrate as deep as he wants. Try a couple of different ways of doing this...lie face down on the bed with him on top and put a pillow under your hips. This is great for indirect clitoral stimulation. Or go all out and let him have his way...get on all fours. You'll both enjoy it a lot!

Kisses xxx

Positions 101

Okay...girl-on-top. You ladies should love this one. Not does it sound powerful, it really is. This position is considered a power position. You ladies are in control of it all...depth, speed, and angle. A plus if you have a small or sensitive cervix...he can only go as deep as you'll let him. For him, he gets the pleasure of being able to watch everything. It appeals to his natural voyeuristic side, plus there's no pressure...she's doing all the work. For him, he's getting his cake and eating it too! This is a great position for him to hit her g-spot as well...have her lean back slightly for best access. Not to mention, both of his hands are free to play with whatever he can reach! Spice it up a little and try facing towards his toes. But be warned...don't try and do a 180 with him inside of you without telling him. Unless he's rock hard and ready for it, you can actually bend his penis causing him much pain. Other variations? Try having him sit up with his back against the wall or headboard or have him sit on a chair, such as dining room chair with no arms. The end results will be worth it!

Kisses xxx

A Plethora of Positions

I completely missed yesterday, didn't I? Wow, it's been one of those weeks. Well everyone, when it comes to positions, there are a ton of them to choose from. Did you know that in the Kama Sutra there are over 600 positions?! Wow! I can only imagine what kind of sabbatical that would turn out to be! But basically there are 5 basic positions that are a fave among the general public. Today we're going to start out with the basic one everyone is familiar with...the missionary position. Now don't turn your noses away at this one. It has it's perks...Physically speaking, it requires less of a workout on both of you. For him, he can control the speed and depth of the thrusts while she gets a rest...but that's not all she gets. By manipulating the position just a little bit, she'll find it easier to indirectly stimulate the clitoris, which is key for her orgasms. Try putting a pillow under her backside to raise her hips just a bit, or if you have a little flexibility, girls, wrap your legs around his back which will allow you to let him know with a squeeze of your thighs if he is going too fast. Another variation? Try letting him put his legs on the outside, which will make you seem tighter...a plus for both of you.

Kisses xxx

Today's Tip 7/19/08

It's all in her head...literally. Guys, us girls use our heads a lot. We think with them, we dream with them, we analyze with them, we even have sex with them. If your girl isn't in the right frame of mind, she isn't going to enjoy herself no matter how good you are. If she has ten million things on her mind, she'll be miles away...even if you can't tell. Make sure she feels completely focused on what you are doing. Some things to try? A sensual massage, candles or maybe some music. The key is to take your time and explore a bit. It's not a race to the finish line...unless you both are aiming for a quickie. That's a whole different bowl of cherries for another time. Stay tuned!

Tip of the Day

Today is my birthday. Another year older...yea! I think. Well, today's tip has to do with just that...getting older. Sex doesn't have to happen less the older we get. Our sex drives don't go away when we turn a certain age. We are sexual beings. It is completely natural to want what feels good at any age. Just remember that it is quality that counts. Whether you're doing it 3 times a day or 3 times a month, as long as you make it count, you don't have to keep count. Notches on the bed post are only in the movies!